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It's true isn't it? Hotel rooms, cars, most family-sized homes, vacation packages. They're all made for four people. Of course there are other options out there: get a hotel room with a cot, buy a van, put two kids in each room, get creative with holidays. But the point is, it's easiest to just stop at two kids. I get it, but obviously, we're not. Heck, I hope we don't stop at three kids!
But it can be discouraging for a parent. After Oli was born a lot of people assumed we were done having kids altogether. Forget the fact that we were vocal about wanting to adopt additional children, I heard "so, you're done?" all the time. Especially because we had a boy and a girl. Why keep going when all is so perfect? Simple - that's never what we've wanted.
We believe we have enough room in our hearts, in our home, and in our budget for more than two kids. It's not that we're not happy now or that Lily and Oli have left us lacking. If anything, I think it's a compliment to our children than we don't want to stop! Another Lilygirl or Oliboy? PLEASE, YES!
And it's funny, because many of you reading this come from completely different situations. More than two children is probably not even a question for some of you. You'll get to that place when it's time to decide on having baby number 5 or 6! But in my context, I assure you, it's uncommon. Our neighbours think we're weird. I'm the only mom in my Mom's Group with two children. Brad is the only dad on his hockey team with two children. Growing up the vast majority of my friends were from families of two kids. The church I attended all throughout university wasn't brimming with large families as many, I know, tend to be. And we'll be the first family in our own church to have three children (though, granted, there are only 4 families!).
Sometimes I need to give myself a pep talk, because it will be tough. And if the world is built for families of four, the city is built for families of two or one. Our closest grocery stores don't even have child seats in the shopping carts and it's rare to see a minivan. And here we are, dreaming of having a big (for us) family. Honestly, I read blogs like Moments With Love and I just adore the idea of a HUGE family, filled with biological and adopted brothers and sisters. But I also remember that she lives in an American suburb in a giant house and drives a crazy long van, and that's just not what God has called us to as urban church planters in Montreal.
But we are certain we want more children, so we'll take hotel rooms with cots or pull-out couches, the minivan (SO weird to have one in our neighbourhood), bunk beds, and creative holidays. The world isn't built for it, but I think we were.
What about you?
Can you relate to wanting a large family despite the set backs or pressure to keep your family smaller?
Or do you feel opposite pressure - to have a larger family? I know people who are in this boat.
What motivated you to have the # of kids you've had?
What deters you from having a larger family?
I'd love to hear your thoughts!