shatter your kid-centred kingdom

Recently I read an article that inspired me so much, and reminded me in many ways, of why we live how we live.  I wanted to share an excerpt with you, which wraps things up perfectly.

"It’s good for our children to be dethroned and for God to be enthroned. It’s good for a child to miss out on piano lessons because her family has chosen to save up for an adoption. It’s good for a child to forego the best school because a family has chosen to settle into a neighborhood where they might shine a bright light. It’s good for kids to miss summer camp to go on a mission trip. It’s good for children to miss out on all kinds of “bests” in order for families to participate in kingdom-minded activities that glorify God and not our kids."

It's so tempting to think that in order to have kids, we need to live in a safe, well-financed, Christian bubble, even though that drastically ignores what the Bible says about the Christian life, money, and mission.

It's so tempting to think that if we really love our kids we'll avoid the rougher neighbourhoods, the urban places that might require them to share a bedroom and limit their toys, the public schools where they may be the only Christians in their class, and the complicated relationships where we may need to do some explaining.

We want the easy road, for ourselves and our kids. We don't want to hold back anything from our children, even though time and time again, it's been known that want breeds creativity, lack breeds contentment, and trials breed character. 


Truthfully, I don't want to suffer and I don't want to see my kids feel anything remotely close to it. But I know following God is better, and sometimes that means bringing them with us into the dark, to be the light. Sometimes it means letting them go with less, so we can give more. Sometimes it means stepping out so we can welcome in. Because it's not about them, it's about Him.

You can read the whole article here. I need this reminder all the time, and I'll bet I'm not the only one.


Why We Love Halloween

Over the years, and especially after sharing why we don't do Santa, I've received a ton of questions about Halloween. Most wonder if, as a Christian family we celebrate Halloween, if we go trick-or-treating, and how we navigate a holiday that is often linked to sorcery, dark arts, and evil. I'm glad to share our take on Halloween, and I hope it's helpful for your family! Feel free to ask any follow up questions in the comments below.

To start, I just have to say, we love Halloween! I wish Halloween was more than one night! It's become probably the most community-based day of the year, and we love any opportunity to chat with our neighbours and get to know them better. Sure, we have weekends in the park, and school drop off and pick up to get to know local families, but on Halloween we are bumping into neighbourhood families every five feet! The heartbeat behind our church is always to be a light in the neighbourhood where we live. We believe strongly in investing in our neighbours and our neighbourhood. Halloween is one of the best nights of the year for doing just that, and I can't imaging wasting that opportunity and staying home (or attending a church event in lieu of trick-or-treating).

Some Christians are against Halloween because they believe the roots are in Pagan festivals or sorcery, but there are mixed accounts on the Halloween origin, and in fact, many historians trace Halloween back to Christian farming festivals. Regardless of the origins hundreds of years ago, Halloween today, at least for children the ages of ours and in our circles, don't celebrate the occult, they celebrate dressing up and eating candy.

Sure, in recent decades, Halloween has become increasingly tied to horror and gore, but that's certainly not obligatory if you're celebrating Halloween, and I don't believe it tarnishes the holiday for everyone. In fact, I'd argue that Christmas, though rooted in the birth of Jesus and God's initiating love for humanity, has become almost equally deplorable with the materialism, extravagance, and tall tales about Santa Claus. Halloween, in some circles, may represent things we don't want our children to internalize as true, but so does Christmas, and I don't see a trend of Christians bucking Christmas.

Taking your kids trick-or-treating is a great way to get to know your neighbours better and do something fun as a family. Many Christian families don't take these opportunities enough, I'd say. We take the Apostle Paul's ministry style of becoming all things to all men (1 Corinthians 9:19-23), and we believe as it's written in Titus 1:15, to the pure, all things are pure. More than any influence in the Bible, we look to Jesus Christ, who ate with prostitutes, tax collectors, and sinners without batting an eye. Christians today often tend to abstain from the people, communities, and events, where Jesus would most likely be found in the pages of scripture.

We see Halloween as a night of costumes, too much sugar, and being in the community. Often I get to know one parent from dropping off my kids at school, but I've never met their spouse, nor have they met Brad. Halloween is usually a time when all of the parents are out and about, mingling, and connecting in an informal way. In short, it's an incredible opportunity, especially for Christians who want to be a positive influence in their community.

This year Lily is being Elphaba, the "wicked" witch from the Wizard of Oz (who's actually good, according to the Broadway musical, Wicked) at school and Anne of Green Gables when we go trick-or-treating. I found two amazing costumes at the second-hand store and we couldn't decide, so she's being both! Oli is going as the Hulk, and Chloe is being a princess at school and wearing Oli's fire fighter costume from last year when we go trick-or-treating. I'm looking forward to a fun night out with my family and our neighbours, and of course, stealing my kid's Aero and Reese mini bars ;)



We've been back from Europe for a full month now and I'm just getting to sort through our pictures now. Sorry for the wait! Many of you followed along real-time on Instagram, but those photos were just a few of what you'll see here :)

Vienna was so darn beautiful! Switzerland was all out natural beauty, but this was urban beauty, and you know know how I feel about cities. Heart eyes! The buildings were stunning, and thanks to the Habsburg dynasty, there were tons of palaces. Did you guys know that Marie Antionette was an Austrian princess before moving to France for her marriage to Louis XVI? Vienna was a major world power for so much of history and the buildings and art echo it's past.

Before I dive in to sharing the pictures, I wanted to mention how we've been able to travel as much as we do - we always always always get free flights using Aeroplan points from various credit cards we use. It's a bit complicated, and you need to be financially responsible to make it work, but it is possible for most families to do what we do if you follow our step by step guide to free flights. My husband has written out a very detailed post explaining it for beginners, so head over to that post if you're curious! We could definitely never afford to travel the world as we do without a few savvy tricks: FREE FLIGHTS, Airbnb instead of hotels, and cooking almost every meal. I know for many the idea of a vacation is staying in a nice hotel and eating out, and I don't blame you (that sounds great to me too!), but when you want to travel the world with your family of five, this is the only way we can swing it.

We had such a great time staying in Vienna! Our Airbnb was the trifecta of European style (concrete floors, white walls, exposed brick) and we were right outside of downtown. The only problem in this Airbnb was that the kitchen was really poorly stocked - like, there was one spatula and one wooden spoon as far as utensils went - so cooking was difficult. Thankfully the food in Austria was much more affordable than our next stop to Switzerland, so we bought lots of groceries and did our best in our kitchen. Below you'll see the view from our upstairs window of our courtyard, our front porch, and a bit of our lovely white nest.

This was our first trip traveling without a stroller or any diapers and we felt SO FREE. Oh my goodness! After taking our babies and kids on various trips in the past where we had to pack entire suitcases to store the pack-and-play, the formula, the diapers and wipes, etc. this felt like the lightest trip yet, by far.

Another thing that added to our levity was bringing these scooters for our kids. Vienna had free bike rentals for 1 hour time blocks, so Brad and I hopped on those rental bikes and the kids scooted beside us as we explored the city. Any of you who have traveled with kids before knows that the pace is very slow with kids, so this was a really cool experience and a first: exploring a new city at a normal speed! The scooters were able to be the kid's carry-ons as well, so it wasn't extra weight for us to fit into our luggage, and they rode them everywhere so we didn't have to carry them either. It gave us a glimpse into the next chapter of our lives with three kids. Though we never let having little ones stop of from traveling, it has never been easy. This summer was the easiest trip we've done to date, and it made us really excited for future adventures with our kids as they're more and more able to participate in the varying aspects of travel.

We went to almost every museum, palace, and castle that was on our bucket list. We always did the more "adult" activity in the morning, when the kids were at their best. The deal was that they had to earn the "kid" activity in the afternoon by behaving well in the morning. It worked really well!  For the most part, the kids enjoyed every museum that we went to, but they definitely take after me and don't need very much time in each room (sorry, Brad, who loves to browse and read everything!) One tip to museum-ing with kids is to give them an old digital camera or one of your phones and have them take pictures of their favourite paintings or sculptures. Brad thought of that idea, and it saved our time at the Vienna Art Museum! They suddenly paid so much more attention to the art around them and took it really seriously! We ended up with about 300 blurry Madonna and Child pictures on our phones, but they never complained!

Here's a list of the "adult" activities we did (museums, palaces, etc.)
  • Haus der Musik - The Sound Museum. This was a bit information heavy, but the piano staircase and professionals playing on the Steinway in the entryway made it pretty unforgettable. Any music buffs wouldn't want to miss it, but I could have ;)
  • Kunsthistorisches Museum (art museum)
  • Schonbrunn Palace
  • Belvedere Palace (very first thing we did in Vienna)
  • State Opera House
  • Hofburg Palace (was the impressive palace complex near the Museums Quarter - it was gorgeous but the actual visits were average - Sisi Apartments, Sisi Museum, Silver Collection, none were amazing)
Here's a list of where we ate when we did eat out. It's not exhaustive, but we did our research and loved every place!
  • Fine Dining - Grace (service and food were both out of this world)
  • Dim Sum and Authentic Chinese -  (service was horrible, food was outstanding)
  • Family-friendly Wood-burning Oven Pizza - Pizzeria Osteria da Giovanni (can't recommend this place enough!)
  • Tapas - Lola  (we got takeout because we weren't sharing with our kids, lol. Note: they don't usually do takeout but they were willing, and it was phenomenal)

Here's a list of the afternoon activities we did to reward the kids (usually we had a blast, too!)
  • Walking around town, hunting for ice cream (expect to pay around 3€) 
  • Scooting, tickle fest, rough time, pastries (read: viennoiseries) bubbles at Stadtpark
  • Swimming at Badeschiff, a freezing outdoor pool submerged in the Danube River (a cool experience but paying to swim in 19 degree water may have been a bit foolish, even if it was 30 degrees that day!)
  • On a rainy day - indoor water park Diana-Bad (absolutely worth it - so fun, especially the water slides! Just be ready for co-ed change rooms and very few private cabins to change in - yikes!)
  • Various playgrounds around the city (Stadtpark was a fav!)
    As usual, Brad and I each gave one another one full day off in each location, and I chose to make mine two half days off instead of a full day. On my first half day in Vienna, I snuck away to a tiny little cafe/resto to snack and read for hours and walked the long and windy streets of Vienna. The next day I fueled up first at Juice Factory and then found a street of thrift stores and bought a wool sweater from Scotland. It was seriously my pride and joy you guys, and it sadly got into the dryer with a pile of laundry and shrunk (cue tears!). At least I had it for the Swiss Alps.

    The downside to Vienna, which you should know before you go, is that EVERY ADULT SMOKES. And loads of kids. I'm not even kidding. There was smoking everywhere - in restaurants, malls, cafes, train stations. It really put a bit of a grey cloud over the vacation - literally! It was also one of the grittiest cities we've ever been to. Even though the city is drop dead gorgeous in it's architecture, there was tons of tagging (read: not artistic, thoughtful graffiti, which I actually love), garbage in the streets, and general rough-around-the-edges-ness that most other cities we've been to haven't had. I've heard Berlin is similar, but I've never been, so I can't really say. In some ways, the grit added to the experience, so don't misread this, I'm just mentioning it because it was a notable observation, and might be a deal breaker for some.

    Vienna was such a cool city! The history is mind-blowing! Brad and I watched a four part documentary from the BBC while we were there about the Habsburg dynasty, the counter reformation, and the role Vienna played in WWII. It's also the most famous city for music, probably in the world, though we didn't go to any musical performances. And I didn't know this until our trip, but those viennoiseries that you can buy in the best cafes in Montreal? They're named after Vienna! The yummiest pastries I've ever had outside of Paris!

    Austria really wasn't on my radar when Brad suggested it for this trip, but I'm so glad we went! We didn't get outside the city, so no, we didn't see any Sound of Music glory (but we made up for it in the Swiss Alps, and yes, I've watched the movie since returning home!). It was one of the hardest cities we've ever been in as tourists because for the first time, English (and French) were very rare to come by, so we found ourselves clueless a lot of the time. We know exactly three phrases in German, and we found the general population in Vienna didn't have a lot of English. Other European cities we've been to (especially in Scandinavia!) have had a lot more English, or we've simply stayed with French countries and been fine with our second language, but this time we struggled. Being bi-lingual in English and French is such a blessing when traveling, but there is definitely a lot of the world where neither of those languages help you much!

    Before our trip when we were looking up churches to join on Sundays, Brad connected with a pastor at the church we went to in Vienna, New City Wien. He recommended his family's babysitter and we were able to meet her on Sunday, and then hire her to come watch the kids later in the week. For the first time abroad, Brad and I were able to go out ALONE. We rode bikes through the sunset-washed city and laughed at our good fortune. We felt full and light and incredibly blessed. It was a lifetime top moment. We ate at Grace and it was absolutely incredible. When we came home to three sleeping kids and our sweet babysitter, we knew a rest we hadn't known before - the combination of the adventure you feel when traveling abroad with your favourite little people, and the security and intimacy you feel after quality alone time with your spouse.

    After 9 days in Vienna, we boarded a plane for Switzerland, where we stayed in Lucerne (Luzern) and Berne (Bern). Those posts are coming soon...