To all of those who asked "is Lily jealous of Oli?", my answer has since changed.
To a big fat YES.
Lord, help us all.
It hits the worst when they have a shared feeding time. With Lily's one nap lined up at 11am-1pm, she and Oli both have the same wake time, as one of his many naps also ends at 1pm. So while he's getting his bottle or breastfeeding, she's furious. Even though her sippy cup is beside her. Even though she's surrounded by Goldfish crackers or other things I can give her outside of the high chair. Even though I'm chatting with her or putting on a cartoon show for her. Furious.
She's also furious when she's tired and I'm with Oli. Which hits around 4pm. Her bedtime isn't til 6pm, but once she's eating at 5pm (and Oli is napping) she perks up. But 4pm. Oh brother. Not my favourite time of day.
And how does she act jealous you might ask? Scratching and biting. Which is really hard to avoid or stop when I'm nursing or bottle feeding Oli on the couch and she comes at me with those teeth or nails. She's stronger than you might think! And very determined. She'll bite my feet or legs and only tries harder with a firm "NO!" or slap on the hand. And today she actually scratched Oli quite hard on the head.
Anyone who has been here before, PLEASE feel free to suggest any tips or ideas as to how I can stop this. She's only 15 months old so I'm not sure how much my disciplining is working, but it's got to stop and smothering her with love when Oli is napping and my hands are free isn't enough to suggest that jealous isn't needed and that I'm still here for her.